tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29323881.post2624421836614012125..comments2023-11-25T12:15:50.165-05:00Comments on Hoarder's Son: The Empty NestHoarder's Sonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04306396819696123506noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29323881.post-55759638372023490682008-05-23T23:14:00.000-04:002008-05-23T23:14:00.000-04:00Hi Jamie,Thanks for the comment. There are definit...Hi Jamie,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the comment. There are definitely aspects of hoarding that seem similar to addiction. If I were a psychology researcher, I'd probably be very interested in investigating that potential connection.<BR/><BR/>As for my mom, she does not know about this blog. My dad passed away more than a decade ago, but my sister knows about this blog, and I've showed her my videos, as well as videos that other people have put on the net. It's been helpful (yet also a little sad) to know that other people are struggling with the same issues.<BR/><BR/>-HSHoarder's Sonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04306396819696123506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29323881.post-73007086454079231182008-05-19T17:40:00.000-04:002008-05-19T17:40:00.000-04:00I am tired of hearing about the "go -slow" and abs...I am tired of hearing about the "go -slow" and absolutely, under no circumstance do a clean out for them! It's o.k. to take drugs and alcohol away from an addict and force a rehab. Why not a hoarder? It's just a different addiction. Anyone can see that the hoard can be dangerous to them (as well as others), so why advocate going slow. I have another question that is a bit unrelated... do your parents know about this blog?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29323881.post-14062110195919113932007-02-22T19:04:00.000-05:002007-02-22T19:04:00.000-05:00How aboutmy case? My sister's house got so bad she...How aboutmy case? My sister's house got so bad she finally moved her family in with our mother for relief, and of course now my mother's house-once immaculate- loooks more/more like my sister''s. Neither can confront the problem rationaly. Mom makes excuses for Sis saying it's not that bad.. I live far off and have no say or control.-have had to walk away...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29323881.post-31160815425960974422007-02-11T11:37:00.000-05:002007-02-11T11:37:00.000-05:00Hi nashbabe,I definitely agree that there is no "g...Hi nashbabe,<BR/><BR/>I definitely agree that there is no "go slow" with a severe hoarder. As we both have seen from the experiences discussed on the <A HREF="http://www.childrenofhoarders.com/" REL="nofollow">COH group</A>, an acute crisis seems to be required in almost every case before the situation changes.<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, before the crisis hits, I think that many, if not most of us COHs, go through a period where we have to <I>try</I> the "go slow" approach first before we are ready to admit <I>to ourselves</I> that more direct, aggressive action, including seeking outside help, is required.<BR/><BR/>In other words, it's not about the hoarder, it's about us: how we cope with the problem and how we find ourselves moved to intervene (or perhaps to walk away).<BR/><BR/>Thanks for making me think about this more clearly: if a "cure" for the hoarder's irrational behavior seems to be out of reach in the vast majority of cases, the most productive approach may be to explore the processes by which COHs and others who are affected by the problem can be empowered to take appropriate action. Depending on the circumstances, that may mean intervention or it may include walking away from the situation without feeling overwhelmed by guilt.<BR/><BR/><I>How can a COH get to that point of clarity as quickly as possible?</I> I've been a COH for 40 years, and I've been aware of the nature of hoarding as a mental illness for more than ten years, and I'm still not sure I've reached a point of clarity!Hoarder's Sonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04306396819696123506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29323881.post-32032763105621690972007-02-10T22:56:00.000-05:002007-02-10T22:56:00.000-05:00In our experience there is no "go slow" with a hoa...In our experience there is no "go slow" with a hoarder. They are seemingly attached to all their stuff to the extent that asking them to do something about it is more than they can, or are willing, to do. The situation seems to almost always come to a head...with the hoarder being forced to do something.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29323881.post-7708326506213704382007-01-04T12:53:00.000-05:002007-01-04T12:53:00.000-05:00Kudos for speaking up! I think hearing your voice...Kudos for speaking up! I think hearing your voice makes the videos more real, especially for people who spend their whole lives in denial.Brindlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11796459083729659465noreply@blogger.com